My thoughts: The problem of being inconsiderate
One of the most infuriating things that I’ve experienced in my life is how inconsiderate people are. People just do not seem to take the time to think about how their actions and words will make other people feel. People do not seem to realize that they have power in their choices that affect other people. I don’t know why. I mean this is a lesson we learn in kindergarten… “Do unto others what you would do unto you.” Even a little kid will understand once it is explained that if he hits Sam during recess, that hurts Sam and since he knows from experience that getting hurt sucks, he shouldn’t hurt Sam. And yet, I see people every single day who either purposely or stupidly (because they are just not thinking) hurt other people. I experience this almost every day. Almost every day someone will make a comment that I find to be very insulting… and it isn’t like these comments are just taken in the wrong way. They’re really blatant. I get that nobody’s perfect and that everyone is going to be inconsiderate at some point. I’m not sitting on a high horse claiming I’ve never done it either. I just have a problem with the fact that people don’t seem to care that they are inconsiderate. I understand that there are a lot of pressures and problems that are very emotionally taxing and that exerting emotional energy trying to step around everyone’s feelings is unreasonable. That’s not what I mean. There is absolutely no excuse to not try. I do not know for sure, but if I had to guess I’d say that a lot of people are lonely and hurting out there… even people who are strong and happy are dealing with stuff. And so they invest energy on themselves to give themselves strength to deal with hardship, but they do not use any energy to consider the feelings of those around them. It’s hard to be selfless when you feel you are alone, but people need to try. Because not trying just puts other people in the exact same situation they are in where it’s every man for himself. Really it’s not less complicated than when you were in kindergarten. There was a song I learned then too. “Love is something if you give it away, you end up with a whole lot more.” It may not always seem like that. People love and sometimes it goes to waste (ironically I think this is most often due to the inconsiderate-ness that I mentioned before), but you can’t just stop loving. You don’t always see the effects of love. Love might not always better the life of the person it’s directed to, but someone else who you would least expect. And once people are loved, they can find the strength to love others too, and a chain reaction will ensue, but this would only work if people took the time to stop and think about others, to be considerate.
That’s just my rant.